I often describe marriage as a two-story house. The first floor is attachment: safety, connection, the felt sense that “you are with me and for me.” The second floor is skills: how we communicate, budget, parent, plan, and pursue intimacy. Most of us try to remodel the kitchen while the foundation is settling. You can install granite words and stainless-steel schedules and still feel cold and alone. On the latest Change the Odds podcast, weContinue Reading…