The Two-Story Marriage: Attachment then Skills
I often describe marriage as a two-story house. The first floor is attachment: safety, connection, the felt sense that “you […]
Marriage
You Dismiss and They Double Down: Here’s Why
Marriage is not primarily about grand gestures. It’s not the anniversary trips, the surprise gifts, or the long-winded apologies that
Marriage
Why Friendship Is the Foundation of a Lasting Marriage
When Blaine and Adrienne woke up on their 14th anniversary, they didn’t have grand plans. No reservation at a fancy
How to Build Trust in Marriage
Trust is everything. Without it, a true relationship cannot exist. With it, there is no limit to what a connection
How Anxious Is Your Marriage?
When we think about anxiety, we often think about ourselves. Anxiety is something that rests within an individual. Yet there
Without a Change, Your Marriage Won’t Change
It’s so obvious that saying it out loud almost sounds stupid. Yet it is true. Your marriage will not change
When Marriage Is Boring, Do This
“My marriage is boring.” I hear it all the time. Those words are often followed by: “It’s not bad.” “I
Gentleness Is the Better Way
We live in a world of outrage. It’s such a part of our culture that we often don’t even recognize
Is Your Spouse Kind to You?
It’s never the kind of question they expect. Coming to my office, they are prepared to be asked some difficult
Had I Known Twenty Years Ago…
(In honor of Jenny on our 20th wedding anniversary, I’ve written a letter to my 22-year-old self telling me what