Jul 112013 10 Responses

Stop Listening to Your Heart

Every decision starts with the heart.

It sounds sentimental and beautiful.

“Listen to your heart,” Roxette sings, “there’s nothing else you can do.”

The thought is that we are being bombarded by shouts of lies from every angle while our hearts are whispering truth.

Yet is it that simple?

Is every bad decision I’ve ever made a result of me ignoring my heart and being misled by others?

Some clearly have been.

At times I’ve followed the advice of others only to regret it. At other times I’ve blindly done what everyone else around me was doing only to find out it was a bad choice.

Yet many times I’ve ignored the wisdom of others, walked against the grain, and still ended up regretting my choices.

The truth is my heart lies to me as much as it tells me the truth.

Listening to it might have the same odds of making decisions based on a coin flip.

 

Every decision starts with the heart, but it doesn’t start with us listening to it.

It starts with us guarding our heart and guiding it.

Guard Your Heart

An unguarded heart is the most untrustworthy of advisors. We listen to it at our own peril.

It is the one telling us to buy the penny stock, not study for the test, or to eat the extra helping which puts us over our calorie count.

Unguarded hearts aren’t full of wisdom; they overflow with foolishness driven from the emotion of the moment.

     We must guard our hearts because they give themselves away.

It’s easy to lose heart. Pain is great. Suffering is overwhelming. Disappointments abound.

Their cumulative effect can cause us to lose heart.

If we do not intentionally guard our hearts, we will give them away.

We will lose them through the great sorrows of life.

We keep from losing our hearts by:

  • Rest
  • Seeking beauty
  • Not allowing one bad situation to define our day
  • Finding the good

If we do not guard our hearts and nourish them, we will give them away.

     We must guard our hearts because they are under attack.

Not only can we lose heart, we can have our hearts taken from us.

Through foolish actions or carelessness, our hearts can be stolen.

We can become bitter, hateful, and revengeful.

Where love and compassion once reigned, envy and spite can rule.

If we do not guard our hearts with intention, others will steal them from us.

We guard our hearts from attack by:

  • Setting proper boundaries
  • Having accountability
  • Being aware of the threat

Our hearts are under a constant attack. Ignorance of the battle guarantees a loss.

An unguarded heart prevents us from making wise decisions. Even with the best intentions, we are incapable of making consistently good decisions when our hearts are unguarded.

Guide Your Heart

Not only must we guard our hearts, we must also guide them.

It’s not enough to keep them from the bad, we must also drive them toward the good.

We must nourish them in positive things.

Who do you want to be?

What kind of heart would it require?

How can you develop that heart within you?

Unless we are guiding them toward what we want them to be, we will never have the heart we desire.

An unguided heart cannot be trusted.

 

Roxette sang, “Listen to your heart, there’s nothing else you can do.”

A more honest lyric would have been, “Listen to your heart, there’s nothing else I know to tell you to do.”

It might be a fair song, but it’s horrible advice.

Every decision starts with the heart. If it is unguarded and unguided, the outcome is left to chance.

Don’t listen to your heart. Guard it and Guide it.

 

 

10 Responses to Stop Listening to Your Heart
  1. Brian Ramirez Reply

    Don’t’ mean to be pessimistic but if our heart are deceitful and in it there is no good thing, how are we to guide our own hearts? I think it goes without saying (or maybe it needs to be said) that this can only be done by the power of the Spirit of God dwelling within us. We have to be cautious of how we work through this subject. It can be very misleading, especially to a new believer, if the heart and its condition are not clearly defined.
    I’m reminded of David’s plea to the Lord in Psalm 51, “Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.” Here we see David’s clear recognition of how deceitful his heart was in him and how thou he desired after God’s own heart, his personal self-guidance led him down the wrong path. Thank you for considering my thoughts.

    In His firm grip,

    Brian Ramirez

    • Kevin A. Thompson Reply

      Good points Brian. I think a key thought also is the promise of a new heart through Christ. The image I always have is that I’m undergoing a heart-transplant and the old heart is coming out while the new heart is going in. It’s almost like I have two hearts at this moment–kind of like Paul discussion of the old self and new self.

      • Brian Ramirez Reply

        Agreed, Pastor. The Apostle Paul writes in his second letter to the Church at Corinth, “So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to thethings that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.” (2 Cor. 4:16-18)
        I guess the point I would want to drive home is revolved around his letter to the Ephesians, particularly in the area of Chapter 1:17-20. Here Paul discusses his prayers, that this church body (and those who later received this letter) would receive “a spirit of wisdom”, “revelation” of Christ and “the eyes of (their) hearts enlightened.” It’s this spirit, revelation, and vision that later describes the grace that they received from the Lord in chapter and so on.
        I guess I’m a bigger Reformed Calvinist than I realize at times. But I’ve also seen so many professing believers who have struggled in those great valleys of life having missed the true joy of grace, forgiveness, and a heart enlightened and kept on course by the Spirit Paul so desperately desired for the Ephesians.
        Thank you for your willingness to sharpen the iron so graciously given to me by the Lord.

        In Christ,

        Brian

        • Kevin A. Thompson Reply

          I’ll take credit for the Calvinist thing. It will be our lasting legacy on you. Another key point to remember: I’m not targeting my blog as a faith blog. Most of the readers don’t go to church at CB so I’m using terms in their language not Biblical language.

          • Brian Ramirez

            LOL. Don’t’ take this the wrong way but this is the first time I’ve read your blog. It’s not that I’m not interested. Just time or lack thereof. Thank you for explaining the target audience. I completely understand. Wrong place. Thanks for taking the time though. Take care.

  2. michael a Reply

    “Even if your heart condemns you, God is greater than your heart” 1 John 3:20

    https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/guard-my-heart/id418601618?i=418601629

  3. Carolyn Ferber Reply

    As a wisdom blogger myself, I’ve enjoyed reading your blog entries. This entry, Stop Listening to your Heart, initially troubled me upon reading but as I continued understanding your point, I realize you describe as “unguarded heart” what is from my spiritual perspective as a New Thought Christian as the Egoic Self, which is the “driver” of the human experience and less than stellar choices. It can “misguides” us as you subperbly described above. I see the “guarded heart” as the house God, God’s love and Christ Consciousness. YES! We must nurture that Divine Mansion within us, so we may follow God’s lead, God’s guidance, not the misguidance of the Egoic Self (unguarded heart). 🙂 Potato, Pahtahto. Same message, different language. I’m glad I found you! I honor you and your wisdom!

    • Kevin A. Thompson Reply

      Thank you Carolyn. Remember, why my blog is about wisdom, it comes from my own experience with foolishness.

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