Stay In Your Lane
Worry Less, Love More, and Get Things Done
Kevin A. Thompson
Book 06 · 2023
Stay In Your Lane
Worry Less, Love More, and Get Things Done
Most of what you are carrying today was never yours to carry. Putting it down is a skill, and it can be taught.
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Exhausted is not the same as productive.
The idea
There is what you control, what you influence, and what you can only care about. Confuse the three and you will work constantly and finish nothing.
Worry is almost always the sign that you have wandered into somebody else’s lane. So is most of the resentment. So is a fair amount of the conflict.
This is a simple, repeatable process for sorting it — so the energy goes where it can actually do something, and the rest gets handed back to the person it belongs to.
Inside the book
What you will actually get
- Three lanes
Control, influence, concern — and how to tell them apart in a real situation.
- Why worry sticks
The specific reasons we keep picking up what is not ours.
- Love more
Staying in your lane is not detachment. It is what makes real help possible.
- Get things done
What becomes achievable once the false obligations are off the list.
Who it is for
Written with these readers in mind
Anyone carrying somebody else’s problem
A grown child, a coworker, a friend, a parent.
Leaders and caregivers
People whose job is other people, running low.
Chronic worriers
A process, not a pep talk.
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Kevin speaks to churches, businesses, and organizations on marriage, leadership, and living with intention.
About the author
Kevin A. Thompson
Kevin is a teaching pastor at Bayside Church, where he oversees Married Life Ministries across nine locations in California. He is one of the more widely read voices in America on marriage and relationships.
A frequent guest on Focus on the Family and Family Life and featured in the New York Times, he holds a Master of Divinity from Beeson Divinity School at Samford University. He and his wife, Jenny, live in Auburn, California, with their two children.
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